Learn how people pleasing fuels anxiety and conflict avoidance. Therapy for Montana women ready to build confidence, boundaries, and self-trust.

When most people think about people pleasing, they picture emotional exhaustion, burnout, or the inability to say no.

What they don't often realize is that people pleasing can also have a significant impact on their finances.

As a therapist who specializes in helping anxious people pleasers, I frequently see clients whose financial stress isn't simply about income or budgeting. It's about guilt, conflict avoidance, and feeling responsible for other people's emotions.

How stepping outside your comfort zone can help you overcome anxiety, people pleasing, and conflict avoidance.

If you're an anxious people pleaser or someone who avoids conflict at all costs, I have a challenge for you:

Go find some Type 2 fun.

If you've never heard the term before, Type 2 fun is the kind of experience that's miserable while it's happening—but hilarious, meaningful, or rewarding in retrospect.

It's the story you tell for years afterward.

I am begging you—especially if you struggle with anxiety—to find a hobby, interest, or passion that makes you wait.

Seriously.

Find something that creates anticipation.

Something that gives you a reason to count down the days.

Something that makes you excited about what's coming next.

As a therapist who works with anxious millennial and Gen Z women, I spend a lot of time helping people learn how to manage worry, calm overthinking, and reduce anxiety.

But I also think we need to talk about the other side of the equation:

Learning how to anticipate good things.

How creating a will can help anxious people pleasers practice boundaries, self-trust, and decision-making.

When people think about therapy homework, they usually imagine journaling prompts, breathing exercises, or worksheets.

What they don't expect is for their therapist to tell them:

"I want you to think about writing a will."

And yet, this is an exercise I've assigned to some therapy clients over the years—particularly anxious people pleasers who struggle with boundaries, self-trust, and making decisions based on their own values.